How long do you last in bed?
Does it matter?
Are you satisfied with your lasting time during intercourse?
Is your partner satisfied?
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual issues.
Do you know it is more common in younger men? Older men may have problems getting it up but with age and experience they are able to control ejaculation.
What is premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after sexual penetration, with minimal sexual stimulation and before the person wishes.
In less fancy words premature ejaculation is when you cum too soon, sooner than you would have liked, before you had the chance to satisfy your partner.
(Side Note: Ladies if a guy comes too quickly it may be a direct compliment to you)
What causes premature ejaculation?
Most cases of premature ejaculation do not have a clear cause. Let us leave the causes to the scientists to figure out the and focus on bringing out the stud, the “energizer bunny”, the inner cassanova in you.
Premature ejaculation may occur with a new partner, only in certain sexual situations, or if it has been a long time since the last ejaculation. Psychological and medical issues may contribute.
Tips and Tricks to increase lasting time
In many cases premature ejaculation resolves on its own over time without the need for medical treatment.
For some men, stopping or cutting down on the use of alcohol, tobacco, or illegal drugs may improve their ability to control ejaculation.
The mind is the most powerful drug
First, you need to learn to calm yourself down and lower your performance anxiety because premature ejaculation is associated with infrequent sex,men with low frequencies of sexual activity often get extra excited and aroused, which can lead to performance anxiety when sex presents itself. Even men with frequent sex can get extra-aroused. Think back on the scenarios you had in mind and let them play (of course those thoughts should not be of you cuming too quick).
Are you comfortable?
During sex, if you’re holding your breath, flexing your abs and muscles, or supporting your weight in certain sexual positions (missionary), you’re creating muscle tension that increases the potential for premature ejaculation.
Tell her how you like it
Men that are comfortable with their body image and with being touched often have lower ratings of sexual anxiety.
Let’s Do Some Exercise
The start-stop method is a tested method to learning to control and last longer. A man will stimulate his penis until he is ready to have an orgasm and then cease stop.
Why this self-administered torture? You’re training yourself to find your point of no return. This is the moment before orgasm when you’re about to explode. Instead of ejaculating, you stop the stimulation and allow the feeling of orgasm to subside.
Essentially, you’re teaching your mind and body to get comfortable with being in heightened states of arousal and learning orgasm approaches. At first, masturbate alone using the start-stop method, then use it with your partner (hand job), fellatio (blow job) and finally incorporate the start-stop method with intercourse.
Who would have thought the positions we have sex in can impact premature ejaculation? Oddly enough, the most popular position is missionary, which is also the position associated most with premature ejaculation. For a man looking to cure premature ejaculation try positions that limit muscular tension such as female on top, side-to-side (spooning) and rear entry (doggy style) when both partners are on their knees.
Personally, I think desensitzsing creams or sprays are a short-term fix. Example Lidocaine spray / gel.
Why would you want to reduce your sensation? Isn’t the whole point of sex to feel sensation and find ways to enhance this?
Condoms have similar desensitizing aspects but at least protect you from STIs and pregnancy.
Ejaculating before intercourse is another way to last longer. The more times we ejaculate in a sexual experience, the longer lasting we become and less semen we produce. Try engaging in other sexual activities to ejaculate before full on sex.
What did i miss ? How do you guys do it?
Please share your tips and tricks with us.